— Dalai Lama (via purplebuddhaproject)
— Susan Cain (via quotes-shape-us)
Love is beautiful; love is the epitome of selflessness and giving all of yourself to that special someone. It is the light that wipes away the darkness and replaces it with security. Without love, a person can only accomplish so much, but with it, a person can have the power to move mountains. Yet, love isn’t enough. Who would’ve thunk you can love someone so much, but end up losing it and not have the feeling be reciprocated? That it is not as strong as you think because you outlast it and it disappears? Here’s the thing about love…and I may sound naive, but I believe that love is a powerful feeling, where you lose yourself in that other person. That love has no boundaries and the opportunities it has are limitless. No, I’m not saying that you lose your independence or your ability to live by becoming so into someone that you begin doing things for that person instead of yourself. Because you can do everything for yourself and that person because everything in life has amplified to become more enjoyable. And there is nothing wrong with that. The sky has become more blue and the air has become fresher; your heart begins pumping this feeling and circulates throughout your entire body and the next thing you know, you’re not living just for yourself anymore. You’re living for that person you love. The feeling is so overwhelming, it leaves you feeling blissful; that love is strong enough to keep two people together for eternity. Unfortunately, love isn’t enough to overcome the hardships and obstacles of life, and we lose our drive to be selfless. We become selfish and jaded as we assimilate back into society’s norms. There is no longer a need to be unique and the courage to truly love, dissipates. But who knows, maybe we aren’t truly meant to love. And that it is not as powerful as I think. That, it may be more selfish than selfless because you don’t want to let that person go. But is that wrong, wanting to keep that special someone to yourself? Why is that looked down on while “letting go of them” is encouraged? Who is to say which is right or wrong? It just gives us an opportunity to ridicule each other. However, the bottom line is that it fades, and the motivation to love, is lost as we slowly learn to love another. Maybe we aren’t programmed to love monagamously and that there is no true love since there are so many others out there. Maybe, love isn’t as powerful as I thought. Or is it?
Night time silence is replaced with voices of despair and regret; the echoes of hopeful wishing has become quiet and still. Somehow, I thought that our love would be strong enough to keep us together. If only things had turn out differently.
There is nothing more
to give you, other than love,
to keep you with me
I am a sensitive man; one who is more sensitve than the average man. A man who is more in tune with his inner emotions than even some women. Yes, I am more likely to consider your feelings and take your ideas and opinions to heart. Yes, I’ll probably be the first one to forgive. Yes, I will most likely put your needs before mine. Yes, I’ll even let you lead and be in control. But just because I do that, doesn’t make me a pushover or less of a man! There will be those times where you’re feeling vulnerable and weak who needs to be comforted and cared for. When that happens, I will become a hurricane and rush over to take care of your needs. I will always be that person. My actions will become a tsunami towering over you to wash away your troubles. I will become the man who leads and assure you that everything will be okay because my love for you is bound by nothing except for my conviction to serve you. I will treat you with respect and always put you ahead of myself. It will make me stronger. And I’ll confidently look at your beautiful, flawless face and brush your hair to your side, telling you that we are strong and I love you. Despite that, there will be moments, where I will be weak and vulnerable and will need your love. I will be hurt, but I am not afraid of showing you my emotional, sensitive side. It is a high level of comfort that I am able to show you; that I am human and even in my dark times, I need your support and help being courageous. And when it happpens, please do not think of me as anything less of a man.
I’ve never felt lower about myself than I do now. So, that should be a good enough reason to leave and reinvent myself into a boss, right?
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In fact a mature person does not fall in love, he rises in love. The word ’fall’ is not right. Only immature people fall; they stumble and fall down in love. Somehow they were managing and standing. They cannot manage and they cannot stand – they find a woman and they are gone, they find a man and they are gone. They were always ready to fall on the ground and to creep. They don’t have the backbone, the spine; they don’t have that integrity to stand alone.
A mature person has the integrity to be alone. And when a mature person gives love, he gives without any strings attached to it: he simply gives. And when a mature person gives love, he feels grateful that you have accepted his love, not vice versa. He does not expect you to be thankful for it – no, not at all, he does not even need your thanks. He thanks you for accepting his love. And when two mature persons are in love, one of the greatest paradoxes of life happens, one of the most beautiful phenomena: they are together and yet tremendously alone; they are together so much so that they are almost one. But their oneness does not destroy their individuality, in fact, it enhances it: they become more individual.
Two mature persons in love help each other to become more free. There is no politics involved, no diplomacy, no effort to dominate. How can you dominate the person you love? Just think over it. Domination is a sort of hatred, anger, enmity. How can you think of dominating a person you love? You would love to see the person totally free, independent; you will give him more individuality. That’s why I call it the greatest paradox: they are together so much so that they are almost one, but still in that oneness they are individuals. Their individualities are not effaced – they have become more enhanced. The other has enriched them as far as their freedom is concerned.
Immature people falling in love destroy each other’s freedom, create a bondage, make a prison. Mature persons in love help each other to be free; they help each other to destroy all sorts of bondages. And when love flows with freedom there is beauty. When love flows with dependence there is ugliness.
Osho (via thatkindofwoman)
Something about a hammer and a nail
— Bob Marley (via amortizing)